Happy, because the person!

Is loving yourself good or bad? Let's talk about respect for the individual in the life of each of us.

From childhood we were taught that selfishness is bad. They taught to love the homeland, family, friends. They were taught to treat others with compassion and help in trouble. Everyone, the whole world. The promise of humanity has been laid in us for decades. And this is not bad! He brought kindness to the world. But in this message there was one important detail missing - a person’s love for himself. Woman's love for herself. Respect not only others, but also oneself as an individual.

Self-attention in everyday life

What did this lead to? In our country, which has long stepped over the era of the Soviets, more than one generation of women who know how to love has grown. We love children, wholeheartedly and unconditionally, leaving our interests in the background. We love husbands, turning a blind eye to their shortcomings and striving to ensure their comfort. We love parents, despite reproaches, and trying to give them more attention. We love the dog, cat, parrot and guinea pig that live in our house.

And this love dictates the rules of everyday life. Morning rise and delicious breakfast for the whole family. Then the child's fees in kindergarten or school - my baby should be the most beautiful. Then sending her husband to work - he should always be neat and well-fed. Then household chores, because the house should be clean, comfortable, beautiful and tasty to smell like dinner. Then take a walk with the dog, pick up the child, meet her husband, feed, play, put to bed. The day has passed. What was not in it? An important component - there was no self-attention in him.

Where is the line that no woman should step over in an effort to be useful to others? Where is the limit of everyday activities and personal affairs that is important to observe? One of my friends did not understand this on time. We studied together at the university, and in our group she was the most luxurious beauty. I did not get married for a long time, I chose a companion to my liking and with money. Chose married.

Of course, she did not have to look for work, because she was financially provided. And of course, she enthusiastically began to engage in family and everyday life. But after 2 years, her husband left her. Said, “You are like a book to me. And it’s not interesting anymore. ” Shock? Misunderstanding? Not at all! A woman who has limited her world to the walls of her own house will really be quickly read by a man and forgotten like a familiar book on a shelf.

Self love is important!

Attention to yourself is made up of details. And its most important component is an understanding of oneself as a person, and not just as a mother and wife. A person has the right to his own interests and his own opinion. A good wife, as a rule, lives by the interests and opinion of her husband. A person can devote enough time to his hobby or, finally, appearance. A good mother devotes all possible time to her child, family. A person can be self-sufficient, happy. A good wife and mother - never fully, because she only realizes herself in half.

And this half-heartedness sooner or later begins to manifest itself in relations with loved ones. Mutual discontent is growing, resentment is appearing and accumulating. There is a bitter realization “I gave them all of myself, and they!” ... And why did I give? Who asked you to do this? Who made you decide to give up part of yourself?

We share the responsibilities equally

Personal interests cannot be set aside, even if time is sorely lacking. Do not be afraid to take your child to your grandmother for a couple of hours if you need to visit a beauty salon. Or leave your husband and children at home if you plan to meet with friends. Do not forget those activities that bring you pleasure. Reading, drawing, embroidery or weaving - all of your hobbies that were present in life before, should not leave it simply because it has more responsibilities.Learn to share these responsibilities between households, do not assume too much.

Why do you think that washing dishes and cleaning the house is exclusively women's work? If you attract a husband, you can deal with her twice as fast. And in your free time go for a walk with the whole family. Why do you think you have to cook something for dinner every day? If you aren’t in a mood, invite your family to dine in the cafe. And it will please both you and the children. The number of responsibilities in your daily life will be exactly what you allow. And just as you have the right to determine how much time to spend on yourself, your interests, appearance and hobbies.

Realizing yourself completely, you will be confident, calm, harmonious internally and externally. And this is the secret of not just a good, but a better wife and mother. A real woman who never forgets that she is a person.